You know what? It doesn’t matter what they believe. I don’t really care what others think about my healthier habits, any more than I cared what people thought when I was fat and my eating was out of control. My weight and eating issues are just that – MY issues, not theirs. So if anyone out there wants to make my mindfulness about what I eat their business, be my guest, but I think it’s a much greater reflection of you than it is of me.
I do not constantly preach about healthy choices or about the changes I have made. I don’t comment on what’s on other people’s plates, or judge them because of what they choose to eat. Those are super annoying traits, and I am not an annoying person.
I’ve learned that it can rattle people when folks like me dare to do what often seemed impossible -- start to replace those bad eating behaviors with good habits, and the pounds and inches start coming off. Why does it rattle them? Oh, I am sure I could speculate about a few reasons, but I’m not going to invest energy in doing that, because it does not matter to me; that’s their business. Those are others’ issues to work through, not mine. I’m busy working on me.
So if you invite me over for dinner, and find it annoying that I ask what's on the menu so I can plan accordingly, please consider leaving me off the guest list. If your menu offers very little that I am willing to eat, and you will take offense if I only eat from those limited foods, please consider leaving me off the guest list. If it bugs you when I offer in advance to bring a dish to share that’s something I’m happy to eat freely, please consider leaving me off the guest list.
I eat differently now. If that makes you uncomfortable, or makes me a pain in the ass in your eyes, then maybe you should try and figure out why. But if, in fact, it was Fat Marsha that you enjoyed spending time with, then let the grieving begin, because I parted ways with her back in the spring (see my inaugural blog post “In Memoriam” here: http://www.farewellfatmarsha.com/blog/in-memoriam).